Getting Your Fancy Back

When sex is happening in a long term relationship, plain vanilla, ordinary lovemaking, sex accounts for a mere 15% of relationship happiness.  But when sex is absent, or when it becomes conflicted, difficult, painful, or disappointing, then it accounts for 75% of relationship unhappiness.  In other words, sex isn’t all that big a deal when it's happening but it becomes disproportionately important when it isn’t.  Most sexual dysfunctions are complex bio-psycho-social problems that need sophisticated psychotherapy in order to be treated successfully.  Any one pronged approach is likely to fizzle.  So if you are experiencing sexual difficulties—whether difficulty with desire, arousal, pain, or climax, please don’t suffer in silence any longer.  Contact DrSara for an appointment or find a qualified sex therapist near you.

Learn more about the neuroscience behind sex and love in long term attachments, by listening to anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher's lecture on TED.

Also, the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA) has a very comprehensive resource website available for your perusal at www.SexualHealthMatters.org.