There are 4 bridges to desire: the visual, the emotional connection, sensate focus, and erotic imagination. DrSara encourages her patients to explore erotic imagination using the pictures in their own mind and to develop their own fantasy life. Ultimately, all the protagonists in one’s fantasies are really elements of oneself, elements that ought to be acknowledged rather than discarded.
Erotic tastes vary widely. What is hot for one person may be offensive to another. DrSara has compiled a list of erotica that others have found helpful. She offers these possibilities without any endorsement whatsoever.
Caveat Emptor: fantasy is just that–fantasy. Rape fantasies do not signify a wish to actually be raped, for example, and BDSM fantasies do not necessarily signify a wish to dominate or be dominated in real life…for one thing, if you act the fantasy, you may well lose the fantasy and all the pleasure it brings.