When sex is happening in a long term relationship, plain vanilla, ordinary lovemaking, sex accounts for a mere 15% of relationship happiness. But when sex is absent, or when it becomes conflicted, difficult, painful, or disappointing, then it accounts for 75% of relationship unhappiness. In other words, sex isn’t all that big a deal when it’s happening, but it becomes disproportionately important when it isn’t. Most sexual dysfunctions are complex bio-psycho-social problems that need sophisticated psychotherapy in order to be treated successfully. Any one pronged approach is likely to fizzle. So if you are experiencing sexual difficulties—whether difficulty with desire, arousal, pain, or climax, please don’t suffer in silence any longer.
If you and your partner have gotten into a vicious cycle of expecting a sexual encounter to end in disappointment while at the same time hoping that “this” time will be different, know that you are not alone.
But expecting the worse while at the same time vaguely hoping that this time will be different just increases anxiety. And if you’re anxious, you’ll tend to become more of a spectator than a participant in your own lovemaking. The more closely you watch and worry, the less aware you’ll be of what your body is feeling. Sex therapy can help you learn how to break this negative cycle and cultivate positive experiences again.
Good news: You can Regain your Sex Life by working with a sex therapist. Click here to schedule an appointment.
Sex therapy is psychotherapy — talk therapy— where the subject of conversation is about the challenges you might be experiencing in the area of sexual intimacy. To find out more, select a topic and click on the link:
- Pelvic pain and painful intercourse
- Sex and Cancer
- Low Desire
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Premature Ejaculation
- Inhibited Ejaculation
- Involuntary Celibacy
- Porn and Sex Addiction
Sex Therapy with Dr. Sara
Dr. Sara Rosenquist is a Board Certified Clinical Health Psychologist (ABPP) and Fellow of the Academy of Clinical Health Psychology (FACHP). She is a sex therapist certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), and an approved consultant, certified in the practice of hypnosis by the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH). Dr. Sara helps families, couples and individuals with hypnosis, sex therapy, marital therapy, marriage counseling, sex addiction, postpartum depression, and infertility issues. She is the author of “After The Stork: The Couple’s Guide to Preventing and Overcoming Postpartum Depression”, and enjoys working with clients from her office in Cary, NC.